Can we talk about something that might sting a little but could also set you free? Those relationship patterns that keep showing up like an unwelcome house guest who never gets the hint.
You know what I'm talking about. The friend who always needs rescuing. The partner who's emotionally unavailable. The family member who turns every conversation into criticism. Different faces, same exhausting dance.
Here's what I've learned through my own self-discovery journey and working with incredible women: these patterns aren't accidents. They're not cosmic jokes. They're usually our childhood survival strategies showing up in designer clothes, thinking they're still protecting us.
The rescuer pattern? That might have kept you safe when mom was struggling and you learned love meant being needed. The conflict-avoider? Maybe that developed when fighting meant someone might leave. The perfectionist performer? Perhaps that's how you earned approval in a house where love felt conditional.
But here's the plot twist that nobody talks about - when you take responsibility for your part (without self-blame, please), you get your power back. You stop being the victim of circumstance and become the author of your story.
Building healthy relationships starts with recognizing these patterns. It's not about finding people who won't trigger you - it's about becoming someone who can recognize the trigger and choose differently.
Start small. Notice the feelings. Map out the themes.
Ask yourself the hard questions.
And remember, awareness is always the first step.
You deserve relationships that feel safe, supportive, and authentic. The work you're doing to break these cycles? It's bringing you closer to that reality every single day.
LYLAS
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