Being Comfortable With Being Uncomfortable

How to be 'okay' when you don't have all the answers.

“I just want to be certain – I want to know what’s going to happen, and I want to make sure I don’t get hurt.”

I sat silently, listening to my friend as she carefully spelled out the details of a new romantic interest. Her voice was filled with enthusiasm and a little dread. New relationships are scary, and she is afraid of the unknown.

There’s so much uncertainty in life.

It’s normal to be afraid of the unknown, to put yourself out there. It is uncomfortable, feels unsafe, and is nerve-racking. Sometimes, it can feel unnatural. When faced with a new situation, most of us stick our necks out, feel the cold rush of insecurity, and then quickly retreat into our comfort zone.

But you don’t grow in your comfort zone and can’t change there.

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My most recent experience with leaning into discomfort. Repping team 50s for Generation Women. Read more about this experience here: “Why Does This Feel Like a Middle School Sleepover?”

Discomfort can be experienced in all areas of life—relationships, business, and parenting. Either you don’t feel equipped to face the challenges ahead, or you’re too scared to take a risk and do something differently.

My friend didn’t like the feeling of not knowing. Being uncomfortable made her feel like something was wrong, even though it wasn’t necessarily wrong; it just felt that way.

Can you relate to what she was feeling? The uncomfortable feeling of not knowing?

What if we switched the paradigm up a bit?  What if we looked at it differently? What if we were able to be comfortable being uncomfortable? Leave a comment and let me know how you feel.

Because here’s the deal…

In this world, nothing is certain and there are no guarantees. You can never really be 100% sure about anything. All we can ever do is make educated guesses based on a data set we walk about with. The things you think you know - you might not. You can never have all of the answers.

But you can have your answer. The best answer for you. And that’s all you need.

When I face seasons of uncertainty, I have learned (and am still learning) to be comfortable with the uncomfortable. Sometimes, sitting in this place and not retreating is what it takes for the right thing to materialize. It is scary and vulnerable, but I’m learning to live there, and more importantly, I’m learning to love there.

The key is finding safety and security within you – this has a spiritual component. You can trust (circumstances, people around you, etc.) because you can trust you. Once you learn to trust yourself, security begins to form. Once you learn to love yourself, the rest will fall into place.

Where are you currently facing discomfort? How are you handling it?

I encourage you to lean in and discover what you can learn by getting comfortable with it.

Until next time -

S

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